Welcome to Tobi's Blog!

Landing in Lagos on a Monday afternoon was stressful, and she hated it. It was a smooth flight and landing, plus a much-needed ‘me time’ in her cubicle on the plane, with no noise, no music, and no movies, so descending from the plane felt like she had just been eased into a big pot of boiling water, so big that wherever she turned, there was no escape. She felt the heat the tarmac emitted and mirrored it with the time of Noah when water was said to go from the ground up to the sky as rain. The heat scorched her feet in the Nike kicks she wore, and as she struggled to move along the queue that went into the arrival lounge, her hair stuck to her neck. She had begun to sweat.  That was how she knew she was in Lagos. Home, not so cool home. As usual, she was welcomed by immigration officials who, by sight or by sign, wanted something from her, another signal that she had not missed her way. She was undoubtedly in Lagos. On a very good day, she would have considered stashing some thous...

Hello In my previous post, I mentioned the various reasons why people go into a relationship, or why people start dating. But this time, I'd be addressing the reasons why most relationships fail. Relationships fail due to many reasons. Here are some of them: Distance: Too many relationships have failed as a result of the distance between both parties. Distance they say makes the heart grow fonder, which is why being apart from your partner for a very long time can be disheartening. In most cases, one or both parties end up being unfaithful and the relationship has to come to a sad end. In other cases, the other partner finds and falls in love with a 'better' person and there relationship comes to an end. However, if your partner would not be away for a very long time, you can always work something out. Most people in this situation always tend to have a 'Plan B'. Money: Money! Money! Money! It always has to be money! If girls (or guys, as the case may be) that g...

Hiii! Interesting topic we have here So a few days ago, I was talking with a friend of mine and there and then, I came up with a list of why girls have boyfriends. I believe people have different reasons for being in relationships, especially the ladies. These reasons vary from one person to another and from one relationship to another. Here are the 5 reasons I believe Ladies go into a relationship: Status Some girls just somehow love the status of 'girlfriend' and do not even care who the boyfriend is. I mean they do not take all the 'necessary' into consideration. Such girls are always excited to say, 'I also have a boyfriend!' and are mostly the ' desperados ' or girls who have been single for a very long time. Money Its no longer news that some girls go into a relationship because of what the guy has to offer. They are basically after the money that this guy has and refer to themselves as 'high maintenance babes'. In other word...

Hello . Happy Easter. Hope you had a fab weekend. So today I'll be addressing this issue on why some single women prefer to date married men. In August 2015, over 32 million names of married men was leaked on Ashley Madison, a dating site for married men. Of course, they cheat secretly here, their identity is hidden. This event had me thinking if all men generally just want to cheat or there is another theory that sort of explains this. However, anyone can stay regardless of your gender or sexual orientation. But is there something about a man with a wedding ring that makes him more attractive, desirable, skater, funnier or even nicer? Or is it just our imagination or orientation? Well, I took my time yo examine this issue and I came up with some reasons why women prefer married men. The reasons are summed up in SECURITY. -COMMITTMENT    Every woman wants a man who is willing and able to commit themselves to the relationship. This is guaranteed by the example of their marr...

    Is flirting cheating? Or better still, would you equate flirting to cheating? Well, I got the opinion of a few persons on this. But first, what is cheating? What is flirting? Well, cheating is when one person has a significant other and performs any type of intimate acts- Urban Dictionary. According to Wikipedia, flirting is a social and sometimes sexual activity involving verbal or written communication as well as body language by one person to another, suggesting an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person. According to me, cheating is seeing someone else when you are already in a relationship. And flirting? Well, I really don't know how to define it but I'll say it is making someone like you or even love, if care is not taken. So, is flirting really cheating? No, I don't think so. Cheating is more like a physical activity..,or literally dating someone else. If flirting was cheating, then everyone in a relationship has cheated at some point o...

Hello. Its been a while I posted here and I wanted to write on something quite interesting and argumentative. The issue on making out is such a big one to most teenagers and young adults as most people consider it a sin especially the Christian folks. So, is making out really a sin? I spoke to three ladies about it and here are their opinions: Oore; Well, I just hope the two people involved can control each other. It is advised not to go too far because one most times go beyond 'making out' to the actual sex. The sin the Bible says is fornication and adultery because of the contact points and the intercourse. And this is what God does not want except you have it with one you are married to. So, I think making out is not a sin BUT do not quote me. Check your motives and the thought that follow after the making out session and think about yourself and your future before you make out with anybody, just anybody. Evi; I don't think it is a sin personally, just tha...

I am guilty of this but I'll still say what I have to say about this topic. Relationships don't grow on their own. It takes your energy and effort to grow and maintain a relationship. I'll be sharing a few tips to building better relationships. But, please take note that the relationship I'm talking about the not the typical boy/girlfriend or fiancee/fiance relationship. As against what most people believe, that is not what I am talking about. The kind of relationship I am talking about is your general attitude and behaviour towards everybody and everything, yes everything. It could be to your friend, a stranger, colleague at work or in school etc. First, know thyself and the person you want to bond with. You can't just want to be friends with anybody. Like attracts like. you can't be a Sanguine and move around with a Phlegmatic. It works for some people but know yourself. What applies to A may not apply to B. As the saying goes, one man's meat is another ...

Hi there! The widow, divorcee and single mother series is finally ending today. I must say honestly this has been the most interesting topic on my blog, according to me. I have seen 'that side' of the honourable gentlemen in the house. Lol, so enjoy this closing post and please please please leave a comment. A Widow- No! Because she has been married before A divorcee- No! Same reason as the prior, I can even consider marrying a widow but definitely not a divorcee. A good woman, not married but has a child- Yes, because the child might have come around through any means so it doesn't really matter. But if she happens to be a divorcee with a child, then no. But other than that, yes I can marry her ( @Eniolajr_ ) A widow- No, it does not just feel appropriate A divorcee- No, because it holds in it signs of instability in the marriage in times ahead. A good woman who is not married but has a child- No, I don't think I can cope with the disparity between myself and ...

Hello there! Yesterday I started the widow, divorcee and single mother series. I really hope you enjoyed that of yesterday because today's post promises to be insightful and funny. Enjoy! Ayomide Wey said, 'Of all, I would go for a good woman who is not married but has a child (ie the single mother). I am very very selective actually. So a divorcee, NO. Because I would be having thoughts of her still liking her ex-hubby. A widow, I fit dey fear o!' ( @mide_wey ) Chris Rio said, 'Well, I will choose a widow and a single mother. No divorcee please! And that is purely based on sentiments' ( @ChrisRio_ ) Raynard Omongbale said, 'It depends. There are so many things you need to look out for, like the child's age, his willingness to have a new guardian and other things like that. A woman is preferred amongst others because of her attitude, character and responsibilities. She must have real intentions. But there is no such thing as a good woman. There are a l...

Hi everyone. Today's topic is quite weird and  reactive. The question here is, 'Can you marry a widow, a divorcee or a good woman who is not married but has a child (in other words, a single mother). Remember, my last series featured ladies who talked about what inspired them. This series will feature the gentlemen of the house, lol. So this is the 1st part, I really can't tell how many parts it will end up in because the topic seems more than interesting to me and even those that have voiced out their opinions on this issue feel the same way about it. Enjoy! Rotimi Okungbaye said, 'I don't know about marrying a divorcee. If her husband is still alive, the Bible is against divorce. I can marry a widow because there is nothing holding her down. She is sober and it is not against Biblical injunctions. A good woman with a child, it's fine. If there are no ties binding.' ( @OkungbayeRotimi ) Adebiyi Wajud said, 'I can, if she loves me as much as I love h...

Hello everyone! I guess you all had a lovely weekend, the weekend of love. Happy Valentines Day (better late than never). I trust your Vals day was beautiful just like mine.  So here's a little something for everyone this new week; be valuable the same way you value valentines day and your love. Roses are precious and valuable...do people see you the same way? Or do you even see yourself the same way? Be valuable and stay smart!    Have a most beautiful week ahead and remember...

  Adultery is having an affair with another man or woman (as the case may be) outside your marriage. That is despite being married, you still 'cheat' on your spouse. Fornication is very different from adultery. Fornication entails two unmarried people having sexual affairs.   In most cases of adultery, the women are considered guilty. The men are innocent, even if they are the ones that cheated on their wives. Why are woman so 'unlucky'? Or maybe, the women are guilty too.  So I'm putting it forth, who really is guilty?

 I decided to reblog this from ayodeleoloyo.blogspot.com Visit her blog for more Dating Debate Is it bad to be a side chick? Sometimes it involves fun and sneaking around though it hurts a lot but also involves great ...

It's Val's day tomorrow and everybody seems happy about it. A lot of young couples are looking forward to it and some can't just wait for tomorrow to end. Well, I'm not saying Val's day should not be celebrated neither am I criticizing those who celebrate it; my point is simple, live is not for Val's day alone. People of this millenium have gotten so engrossed in Val's day that they now restrict showing love to only the 14th day of the 2nd month of the year. In every way, this is not right. I mean, love is an 'everyday' thing not a thing you keep in 'reserve' only to use it on February 14th of every year. It isn't just right. Love should be shown everyday to everybody, not just a particular person  or set of persons. Show love to people tomorrow, make it memorable, make it count, enjoy your day.

It doesn't matter your religion. It doesn't matter your tribe. it doesn't matter your nationality. Nothing matters when it comes to love. It is unconditional. It comes from the heart. Embrace love today.

In life, we all want to love, feel love and be loved. All these, however, cannot work together except they come from the heart. Ever heard of love at first sight? As fake as love at first sight is, so is deceptive love. Not everyone that laughs or jokes with you actually loves you. Someone would say, 'People would wish you all the success in the world and then get jealous when you finally have it'. That's just the point! Even trust is a thing of tradition now; it has become extinct. We must however note that the type of love I am talking about here is the brotherly love we have for one another as humans. It should also be noted that without this brotherly love, the kind of love that exists between people in this part of the world would never in it's place. Love comes only from the heart, not from the eyes or hands, I mean genuine love. Love is all we need. Not hatred, not rift, not assault. Love is all we need. the race of love has started, are you in??

Just when you think about giving in to that temptation, ask yourself 'is it worth it?' The problem most youths face is the inability to look beyond their forehead. Most youths do not know that there's more to life than what the eyes can see or sees. Let me share this story with you, maybe it will give you an better view of what I am saying. Leke has been like a son to me and I really love him. He just complete his secondary education and was looking forward to this University freedom. The fact that the University is a place that you parents aren't doesn't mean you should take liberty for granted, I always told him. He proved himself to be a good boy in his first year and came out with a first class result, I was so impressed. The second semester held suprises for me Leke began to take unusual advantage of this his freedom and began to move in the company of his so called God-forsaken friends. I was shocked when I heard that Leke was suspended for hoarding contraba...