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  The first time I recognized I had the “H-factor” as a young Yoruba woman was in an English language class in my senior year of secondary school. I’m not sure who first used this term or how they came up with it, but that’s what they call it. Perhaps on purpose, our teacher had called out terms for us to spell correctly in our notebooks; words like eight, ate, hate, hair, air, hear, and ear, to mention a few. I was convinced I would ace the test, but not until he started to make corrections and I was puzzled. I had gotten almost everything wrong, and I could not understand why or how, until my classmate, Ronke, pointed out to me that we had heard wrongly because we had the ‘H-factor’. Ronke had, in fact, scored ten out of ten. English major in the actual mud. As a non-Nigerian (non-Yorubas should understand what this means, but for those who do not), having the ‘H- factor’ as a Yoruba person means you put the alphabet H anywhere you find a vowel. This means I could tell someone ‘...

Hello. So I decided to switch things up for the blog and I came up with this topic. I had a chat with three guys on a series of What Would you Do' questions? All usernames are Twitter handles. The guys: Bolu Ayeye-  @bolu_ay Timi Badiru-  @timi_alli Tobi Kode-  @fxckore 1. What would you do if you caught your best friend in bed with your babe? Bolu- It's over. I'd cut them both off, tho I'd find out when it started and how it happened. I'm a curious person Timi- I won't talk to any of them again Tobi- Wow, that one is sure going to be hard and painful. I'll break up with her. Over time I would settle with my best friend 2. What would you do if you walk into a restaurant and the person you're supposed to see is on a date with someone else? Bolu- Lmao, I'd call the person and ask what happened or excuse the person and ask. No point making a scene, it's hard to swallow sha. Timi- Wow. I will text her or still walk up to her if she's...

Hello everyone, trust your day was good. This post is just 'one of those posts'. I asked a couple of friends for their worst experience and I got quite hilarious responses. Mine is not here tho... Adeseun- My worst experience would be the day a random guy called me a bastard. It was in church. I came in and sat down, then I realised they had started sharing cards, so I went to get mine. When I got back, someone was already on my seat. I approached him with humility, "Chairman, Abeg na my seat be this" and he was like "what do you want me to do?". So, I just left him and sat behind him. He later wanted to explain, but I shunned him. Then immediately, he called me a bastard. I was mad, I wanted to beat him, I wanted to fight. But I told him something, 'We are in church and I will come back for you'. After church ended, I went to his room, I told him to come out so we could fight. His roommates hid him, then I realised he was even smaller than me...

Hello. Its been a while I posted here and I wanted to write on something quite interesting and argumentative. The issue on making out is such a big one to most teenagers and young adults as most people consider it a sin especially the Christian folks. So, is making out really a sin? I spoke to three ladies about it and here are their opinions: Oore; Well, I just hope the two people involved can control each other. It is advised not to go too far because one most times go beyond 'making out' to the actual sex. The sin the Bible says is fornication and adultery because of the contact points and the intercourse. And this is what God does not want except you have it with one you are married to. So, I think making out is not a sin BUT do not quote me. Check your motives and the thought that follow after the making out session and think about yourself and your future before you make out with anybody, just anybody. Evi; I don't think it is a sin personally, just tha...

Yeah, the title sounds weird. But yeah, push someone. Good morning beautiful people. Hope your night was splendid because mine was superb. So yesterday, I went to church for Night of Worship and something remarkable happened just as I stepped out of the church compound. The addictive me was pressing her phone, chatting obviously. I was bumping into people but I kept saying 'Sorry' each time that happened. I was, in a way subconscious of the little 'drains/ditches' up ahead. I was fixated on my phone, like there was something I would get out of the chat. Just when I thought I had had it all for the night, a lady pushed me. It was not like she bumped into me from the side or anything. She pushed me with her open palm. I was not angry at first because I thought she was 'one of those people' you meet on the street. I looked up ahead and there was a hole in the ground which I would have fallen into had she not pushed me. I looked at her and said, 'Thank you'....

Good morning beautiful people. Trust you had a beautiful weekend and a splendid night. So today I'll be talking about matching your lifestyle with your attitude and all. But before that, let me share this story with you.  Bimpe had always wondered why her parents never for once trusted her. As far as she was concerned, she was a good girl. Her parents were clergies and they expected nothing short of perfection from her. She pretended not to care but deep down, she was always sad. In school, Bimpe would wear trousers, makeup, skimpy dresses and even go to clubs which were all against Biblical injunctions according to her parents. Her parents 'caged' her so much she felt she needed some freedom. When she gained admission into the University, she found the gateway to freedom that instant. Back at home, Bimpe reduced her dressing to just trousers and make up. Her parents would forever complain about this and even claim she is a 'disgrace' to the ethics they uphold as ...

Hi guys! So yesterday I decided to dust and clean up my blog which I have 'abandoned' for some months now. It's for the good of us all. I promised to post today something very interesting and probably, debatable.The topic for today's discuss is 'The eX factor', as stated above. Most teenagers and even youths have at least one ex-boyfriend or girlfriend and in most cases, some people can't seem to deal with break-ups, emotional trauma, psychological disorder and 'the eX factor'. This simply means, keeping up with your ex can be quite tasking and frustrating. So today, I'll drop a few tips on how to deal with break-ups and your EX.

Hello beautiful people. So, the 'What Inspire You' series has officially rounded off. But here's mine...lol. Hi! My name is Oluwatobiloba Ojenike. I'm in my second year in Uni and I'm studying International Relations. Basically, I love to present and host shows, I also take interest in writing and travelling. I am a multi-faceted entrepreneur; from bead making to fashion designing and even event planning and management. I am not really fashion inclined, I just wear what I feel comfortable in And I hate following trends. So here is the list of the people or persons that inspire me: -God, the ultimate creator and inspiration. -My parents, especially my Mum who remind me constantly that there is no boundary or limit to what I can achieve in life. -Mr Dola Bamgboye, my mentor and life coach. I learnt the SWOT method from him in 2009.... -Omotola Slasha of Koga TV, who tells me over and over again that I can achieve whatever it is I have in mind. -Praise Adejo, ...

Hi everyone, bright day isn't it? So, today I'll continue the 'Who inspires you?' series. In case you missed out on the first two, check them  here  and  here . Today's story will be featuring a make up artiste who is also a chemical engineer in the making. Enjoy! Hi, my name is Princess Ogele (some people call me Pessa, long story). So minus studying Chemical Engineering, I wanted to have a few tricks in the bag so I went for styling and makeup. Some months ago, I went to a make up school (MUD) and I have a certificate. I'm not much of a makeup person for myself but for others, I'm down for it. Also, I've got a little desire in the fashion side, I love playing dress up, trying new things and widening my boundaries in fashion. It's just that the money aspect.... So here is a list of the people that inspire me. -My Mum and Dad; they push me to always exceed my limits and never stop daring myself. -Solange Knowles inspires me in the fashion a...

Hello everyone! So yesterday I started the 'What inspires you' series with Mercy Okpanachi opening the 'show'. Today, is another person, you must love her when you're done reading.  PS: She's a twin!  Hi there🙋 I'm Umeh Kanayochukwu Sophia (everyone calls me kany) Presently in 200 level accounting and I have a passion for arts 🙈🔥 I love drawing. I used to draw a lot cos I loved hearing people say how good I was and it just gave me a kind of joy and satisfaction but sadly I haven't drawn in a while( almost a year 😔) Mostly, I love to draw animations and cartoon characters (they are my favs) and I also love graphics (calligraphy and all) I'm not so good in all aspects of art e.g shading  I think I suck at it but I try my best 😌 I can't say any artist that I'm so interested in per say but I feel animators, cartoonists and graphics designers are the realest artists ever But just to be formal I'll say Leonardo Da Vinci cos ...

Hello beautiful people. Thank God it's Friday! So, for the next few posts, I'll be putting up stories of people who do what they love to do best, their inspiration and how they continue in that line they have chosen. The first is Mercy Okpanachi... Hi! My name is Mercy Sophia Okpanachi. I am a huge music freak (any genre), a huge nerd too. I am so in love with Sprite and Five Alive (you could bribe me easily with them). I am also very shy and quiet. Well, I basically love to draw and paint. It feels like putting memories into a portrait, putting emotions to life, more like telling a story. The people who inspire me are -My mother (because she is a hard worker and multitasking) -Timberland (awesome producer ever) -Joyce Meyer -Hilda Labafilo -Janelle Monae -Audu Maikori (CEO of Chocolate City) Yeah...that's all basically. Doing what you love doing can be frustrating and annoying at times but the inspiration and passion keeps me going. My advice? Just keep doing ...

Hello beautiful people. Trust you're doing good. It's mother's day and I just thought of sharing something here. I am not a mother yet but from my observations about the world around me, there's nothing as fulfilling as the joy of motherhood. Every girl in her own special way is a mother, even if she practically doesn't have a baby yet. A mother looks out for her own, protects and shields. I personally think mothers should be the next authority after God and Jesus. Mothers are nation builders. The Female Presidential aspirant, Professor Oluremi Sonaiya recently came to my school to honour an invite to a public lecture. From the little speech she gave, I could decipher the agony of a mother at her indisposed child (Nigeria literally), the need to effect change in our society and the need to be super active as youths. She didn't speak about her ambition or political intention(I loved that about her). Okay, I'm not talking politics here but the need to appre...

  Yes...The Independent Woman! Well, this is for the ladies who think they can not or can never survive alone. Not really alone like that, you know what I'm getting at here. I mean, they expect money, support and all from their parents or boyfriends.   Why do you really need to depend on a man? Fine, God said we are one another's helper. But then, young lady...be smart. Some ladies would ask for practically everything from their boyfriends. Why? Money for food, money for clothes, money to make their hair and even money for BIS! Really?! Some ladies' behaviour would just make you want to ask God 'Why?'. Like Seriously...there are basic things you don't have to ask someone else to buy for you. Is he your father? No, so be smart.   Your parents have trained you enough and spent so much more than you could ever refund them to still ask for money when you should be independent! You really should cover your face in shame if you still ask your parents for house rent ...

  Adultery is having an affair with another man or woman (as the case may be) outside your marriage. That is despite being married, you still 'cheat' on your spouse. Fornication is very different from adultery. Fornication entails two unmarried people having sexual affairs.   In most cases of adultery, the women are considered guilty. The men are innocent, even if they are the ones that cheated on their wives. Why are woman so 'unlucky'? Or maybe, the women are guilty too.  So I'm putting it forth, who really is guilty?

This post was 'inspired' by the several religious constraints attached to dressing. Well, I don't know about men but women suffer the greater part of it. Fine, you must be properly dressed to signify your religion but I must say some religions are going over the edge (permit me to say that). For example as a christian lady, there are various clothes you should not wear. I won't mention the churches which support this system but you all know them (I guess). Don't wear trousers, no jewellery, no makeup, no piercings, no this, no that. I have come to realise one thing in life, all thanks to my school. Your relationship with God is a personal thing. It does not matter if you wear the longest skirts or the biggest ear rings, so far your heart is in correlation with God' commandments and you have a cordial relationship with Him, these do not matter. Don't get me wrong. I am not supporting wearing of trousers or jewelry neither am I condemning it. What I am simpl...

How to make lasting impressions has become an issue for most people, especially at the first meeting(s). A lasting impression comes not by the virtue of what you do or what you're wearing. It comes from your poise, inward appearance, and of course, outward appearance. So everything you do must be channeled in this path.   The first thing you should note is that your dress speaks a lot about you even if you don't represent it inwardly. I mean, someone who dresses shabbily to an interview will not be considered a good prospect for the job. Even if the job has nothing to do with your outward appearance (Engineers in the house...).So, making a lasting impression comes first from your outward appearance. Nobody will want to know the real you if your outward look does not fascinate them.   Secondly, good hygiene is very very important. Brush and floss your teeth, ensure your body is clean, wear nice perfumes and body sprays and above all, wear clean clothes. Remember, cleanli...

During one of my classes today, the lecturer raised the topic of Taboos in the Traditional African Society. At that point, I felt really stupid. Why? Those taboos where just there to teach us the good life. They are totally not true.  For example, I'm from the Yoruba tribe and we have a thousand and one taboos. Don't sit at the entrance when eating. Why? You won't be satisfied. Really? Don't put your hand in the rain. Why? The thunder might strike it, cutting it off. Are these people joking?   But then I must say it helped me a lot in my childhood years. My Mum did not have to tell me certain things before I knew it was wrong. The Yoruba Culture did. Don't whistle at 1pm, you might attract snakes. But on a much more serious note, snakes? Really? Who whistles when the sun is at it's hottest and people are trying to nap? It doesn't just sound well.    There are other taboos in various parts of Africa (I'm not particularly sure about other parts of the c...

It's Val's day tomorrow and everybody seems happy about it. A lot of young couples are looking forward to it and some can't just wait for tomorrow to end. Well, I'm not saying Val's day should not be celebrated neither am I criticizing those who celebrate it; my point is simple, live is not for Val's day alone. People of this millenium have gotten so engrossed in Val's day that they now restrict showing love to only the 14th day of the 2nd month of the year. In every way, this is not right. I mean, love is an 'everyday' thing not a thing you keep in 'reserve' only to use it on February 14th of every year. It isn't just right. Love should be shown everyday to everybody, not just a particular person  or set of persons. Show love to people tomorrow, make it memorable, make it count, enjoy your day.

The answers I'm getting are really funny. Seems a lot of people are against tattoos. Babatunde Adejare Adesina really doesn't want a tattoo. He believes tattoos don't blend with his brand and what he represents. 'I personally don't like tattoos'. Babatunde Adesina is the publisher of 24-hour News source on Facebook and Twitter.

I've been asking friends about getting a tattoo on their body. I got a lotta replies and here's the first. Egbeyemi Taiwo says, ' No, I won't' When asked why, he said ' because it is not acceptable in every situation' Thanks for the reply Taiwo!